How do you do it?
A question that I get asked all too often.
People think that because I homeschool. Because I have a crew of kids. A crew of happy, sweet, good kids. Because I seem happy. And always seem to have a smile on my face. Because I am joyful. That I am some sort of super mom, super woman. Golly, I wish I could take that credit and award!! But, no such luck.
I have had to learn many things....
You must have limits!! You must say "no" to many things. Many good things. Many amazing educational opportunities. Many cool field trips. No. No. No. Because if I say "yes" to it all, then I am saying "no" to something else.
As a mom/homeschooler, my number one priority is to serve God and my family as a wife and a mother. I have been called to homeschool, so this is also added to my plate. These things must come first. Nowhere does it say that I must send my kids to every single education opportunity, go to every field trip, or even leave the house daily to go to daily Mass or adoration. You see, my biggest "secret" for getting it all done is to STAY HOME. That's right, if I'm gone every single day, or multiple times a day, who is going to teach my kids? Who is going to do the grading? Who is going to do my laundry? Who is going to do the cleaning? Who is going to keep things tidy? Who is going to cook the food? Who is going to do the dishes? ....no one!! It is my job to keep things running smoothly on the homefront. My job to keep up with the house and homeschooling and keep things running running peacefully and smoothly.
So when the world starts spinning and my house is starting to fall apart. Mountains of laundry. Bellies filled with too much fast food and junk food. Grading days and days behind. My head so much in a fog that I don't know up from down, left from right. Then I know it's time to scale back and STAY HOME more! My kids need me. My house needs order. (not perfection, I must add, but enough of an order where we can all focus clearly without the mess starting to sink into our souls and making our head and hearts spin, and taking away every ounce of peace that once was)
This fall has been the busiest we have ever had. I am so so so grateful that it is done and the busyness is over. It was a huge blessing to offer our kids so many great opportunities. But I quickly realized that this is the busiest I want things to be. I don't want to go beyond the number of activities we had. We not only ran almost every day, but we ran multiple directions in the evening. Barely had one or two family meals during the week. Laundry and the house, thankfully, didn't fall apart. But it was enough of a "split" feeling, that I know I want less of that and more simple from here on out. These kids will grow too fast. I don't want them to remember all the running and craziness and rushing. I want them to remember our home. That haven of peace. And joy. And love. The place where they spend most of their time. And have the best of memories there.
A very good and holy priest friend of ours encouraged us that staying home and living fully in our Domestic Church is what we need to be doing. We cannot miss these opportunities for holiness in the most simple of moments. Eating family dinners and being together is such a grace-filled time. He shared with us that staying home and being together is a lot more important than doing everything and being in every single sport and activity. Satan wants to rob us of these holy moments by constantly making us be on the run. Sometimes we just need to say no, and ground ourselves at home.
HOME is where the HEART is!!